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cecelia.

twenty one. minneapolis. aspiring funny lady.

i spend a lot time talking about the benefits of being gluten free. very liberal, very passionate. dog person.

These days, before we talk about misogyny, women are increasingly being asked to modify our language so we don’t hurt men’s feelings. Don’t say, “Men oppress women” – that’s sexism, as bad as any sexism women ever have to handle, possibly worse. Instead, say, “Some men oppress women.” Whatever you do, don’t generalise. That’s something men do. Not all men – just some men.

This type of semantic squabbling is a very effective way of getting women to shut up. After all, most of us grew up learning that being a good girl was all about putting other people’s feelings ahead of our own. We aren’t supposed to say what we think if there’s a chance it might upset somebody else or, worse, make them angry. So we stifle our speech with apologies, caveats and soothing sounds. We reassure our friends and loved ones that “you’re not one of those men who hate women”.

What we don’t say is: of course not all men hate women. But culture hates women, so men who grow up in a sexist culture have a tendency to do and say sexist things, often without meaning to. We aren’t judging you for who you are but that doesn’t mean we’re not asking you to change your behaviour. What you feel about women in your heart is of less immediate importance than how you treat them on a daily basis.

You can be the gentlest, sweetest man in the world yet still benefit from sexism. That’s how oppression works.

Laurie Penny  (via lullabysounds)

(via lullabysounds)

“Far too many people are looking for the right person, instead of trying to be the right person.”

Gloria Steinem (via emilysteaparty)

(Source: hellanne, via lunaa-delcasadore)

virgules:

Tim Burton: "He was so desperately in love with Winona, that when they broke up, he wouldn’t admit it was over for the longest time."

virgules:

Tim Burton: "He was so desperately in love with Winona, that when they broke up, he wouldn’t admit it was over for the longest time."

(via lauren-ec)

opiette:

Opiette by Opiette

opiette:

Opiette by Opiette

(via lunaa-delcasadore)

lullabysounds:

I can’t believe I was so exclusive when I was younger about dating like fuck everyone is so cute I don’t care about your junk or the color of your skin everyone is so CUTE I wasted so much time being an ignorant baby!!!!!

naprasno:

Odessa, Ukraine.

naprasno:

Odessa, Ukraine.

(via samanthasmaria)

lullabysounds:

Gonna make a home in myself

(Source: jackpotdw, via kalynnemarie)

britguin:

Robert Bubel

“I want to be
craved
by you.
I want you
to think about kissing
me
as much as I
think about
kissing
you.”

Alena M.  (via angelinalouu)

(Source: 400eurojob, via alittlegirlinabiggerworld)

a new innovative outfit by cecelia ft my messy bathroom and tired eyes.  (at the castle)

a new innovative outfit by cecelia ft my messy bathroom and tired eyes. (at the castle)

“What men mean when they talk about their “crazy” ex-girlfriend is often that she was someone who cried a lot, or texted too often, or had an eating disorder, or wanted too much/too little sex, or generally felt anything beyond the realm of emotionally undemanding agreement. That does not make these women crazy. That makes those women human beings, who have flaws, and emotional weak spots. However, deciding that any behavior that he does not like must be insane– well, that does make a man a jerk.

And when men do this on a regular basis, remember that, if you are a woman, you are not the exception. You are not so cool and fabulous and levelheaded that they will totally get where you are coming from when you show emotions other than “pleasant agreement.”

When men say “most women are crazy, but not you, you’re so cool” the subtext is not, “I love you, be the mother to my children.” The subtext is “do not step out of line, here.” If you get close enough to the men who say things like this, eventually, you will do something that they do not find pleasant. They will decide you are crazy, because this is something they have already decided about women in general.”

Jennifer Wright, “Lady, You Really Aren’t ‘Crazy’” 

(Source: sparkamovement, via lullabysounds)